Blog of the Month: Friendsgiving: A Celebration of Connection

Suzan D. Walker LMT 104331
4 days ago
2 min read

Family gathered at a dining table enjoying a meal. The room has a cozy atmosphere with warm lighting. A TV screen shows text, "DID YOU KNOW?". — Friends-giving in 2017.

Friendsgiving has always held a special place in my heart. I do not celebrate Thanksgiving in the traditional way, but a week before the holiday I used to host a small gathering where friends came together to share food, laughter, and a sense of community. Everyone brought a little dish and I provided the main meal. Throughout the evening, friends and family would drop by, chat for a while, eat, and then say their farewells until Christmas/Yule. It was typically a lively gathering filled with laughter and love. We played games, watched movies, listened to music while we ate, and simply enjoyed being together. It was never about the holiday. It was always about connection and fellowship.

The last true Friendsgiving we had was back in 2018 just before COVID changed all of our lives. We managed to have one small personal gathering after that, but the larger tradition faded as everything shifted. Since then, we have lost friends for many reasons. Some drifted away during political tensions. Some passed on. Some moved or fell out of touch. The people who have remained are fewer but very dear to me.

This year, in memory of my friend Charrisa Hudson Farmer, I want to bring Friendsgiving back. It will be smaller and more intimate, but it will hold the same intention. I am planning a gathering at my place with the close friends who have stayed in my life. It feels like the right moment to reconnect, to honor the people who are still here, and to hold space for the ones who are no longer with us.

Four people pose playfully with tongues out during a meal. Plates and red cups are on the table. Cozy living room setting, joyful mood. — A group of friends having a fun and silly moment during their Friendsgiving dinner in 2017, complete with feasting and laughter.

I am non-religious and secular, but I fully respect the beliefs and philosophies of others. My celebrations are simple and heartfelt. Friendsgiving, for me, is not tied to any specific tradition. It is a moment to share food, stories, and warmth with the people who matter most.

Life changes and circles grow smaller, but connection remains essential. The love we give and the relationships we nurture, even in quiet gatherings, are what carry us through the the years. Keep your loved ones close and hold them dearly to you. Celebrate in whatever way feels true to you. There is something beautiful about sharing a meal with friends who feel like family.

With care and support,

Suzan Walker LMT